Disability and Self Confidence: How to Build Self Esteem

At some point in our lives, we all struggle with our self esteem. It’s quite easy to be our own worst critic.

But, some people struggle with self esteem more than others, particularly individuals with disabilities. Studies have shown that people with disabilities report even lower levels of self confidence than the general population.

Disability and Self Esteem

Society has the ability to powerfully influence a person’s concept of themself. Unfortunately, people with disabilities often deal with discrimination and stereotypes from society. Being viewed as “different” can take a toll on one’s self esteem. And although we are breaking down more and more barriers to become an accessible and inclusive society, people with disabilities continue to face many challenges in their day-to-day lives. 

Why does it matter? According to MentalHelp.net, self esteem “heavily influences people’s choices and decisions” and it “serves a motivational function by making it more or less likely that people will take care of themselves and explore their full potential.” Everybody deserves a fulfilling life, but pressure from society and oneself can be detrimental in the pursuit of happiness.

So, how can we fix this problem?

5 Tips for Building Self Confidence for Individuals with Disabilities

Self esteem doesn’t improve overnight. But, if you are struggling with it, here are a few tips and tricks for boosting self confidence.

1. Reiterate the Person-First Mentality
   I remind myself every day that my disability is just one part of who I am—it doesn’t define me. To reinforce this mindset, I take time to focus on my strengths, talents, and interests. Listing all the things I excel at and enjoy highlights what makes me unique, shifting my focus away from limitations. This person-first approach helps me see the incredible potential I have, no matter what challenges I face.

   Example: I’ve been an amputee or as long as i can remember so it’s just always been a part of my identity. However, because it’s always been a part of my identity i also don’t overthink it & quite frankly sometimes forget about it. I am an engineer, I love to garden & hike. I love doing anything crafty and have lots of friends. Oh and i also happen to have a fake leg!

2. Encourage Independence
   Gaining independence is empowering. I’ve learned that relying on others for everyday tasks can be hard on self-esteem, so I challenge myself to take steps toward doing things on my own. Whether it’s riding public transportation, learning to drive, or even mastering something like cycling, these small wins help me feel more in control of my life. Every step I take toward independence builds my confidence and shows me how capable I truly am.

   Example: I became an amputee at age 4. Growing up my parents didn’t let me have a pass because i was disabled. I still had chores just like my fully able bodied sister. I still got grounded when I got into trouble haha! My parents instilled in me a sense of independence by treating me like a kid! And now i have carried that through to my adult life (although sometimes i play the leg card and make my husband get me stuff).

3. Tap Into a Talent
   Hobbies are more than just a way to pass the time—they can boost confidence and bring joy. When I find something I love doing, whether it’s gardening, taking an art class, or volunteering, it reminds me of my strengths and value. Discovering or nurturing a talent helps me see my self-worth and gives me a sense of belonging in my community.

   Example: I am learning Spanish through an app that tracks my progress and praises my advancements. I taught myself how to bake bread & now i can provide freshly baked bread for my family. I learned how to garden and now i can save on groceries because i grow our own produce. I am teaching myself skills that i can do on days even when i can’t wear my leg.

4. Praise Individuality
   I’ve learned that comparison doesn’t serve me—it only steals my joy. Instead, I celebrate what makes me, me. My strengths, challenges, abilities, and even my disabilities are all part of what makes me unique. Embracing individuality helps me feel confident in who I am and reminds me that no one else can bring to the world what I do.

   Example: my only comparison is me i used to walk a half mile and get tired. Now i’m walking 1 whole mile without getting tired. It doesn’t matter that other people are running longer distances. I am making my own progress.

5. Set Realistic Goals
   I set goals that are challenging but achievable, focusing on what’s realistic for me. Each time I reach a goal, no matter how small, I feel a surge of accomplishment and pride. It’s these milestones that remind me I’m making progress, growing stronger, and proving to myself just how much I’m capable of achieving.

   Example: aim to read one book per month it's specific, achievable within a reasonable timeframe, and allows for consistent progress, unlike setting a goal to read 100 books in a month which might be unrealistic for most people.

By focusing on strengths, embracing independence, and celebrating individuality, I remind myself that my worth isn’t defined by limitations. Each step I take—whether it’s setting goals, exploring talents, or achieving new milestones—builds my confidence and reinforces that I’m capable of living a fulfilling and empowered life.